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when is the right age for a sleepover

Yesterday Anya was invited for a sleepover and my instant reaction was she’s only just turned six.  How can she go for a sleepover?  It’s not something I’ve ever really thought about because the situation has never arisen so it never needed any consideration.  But now I have to think about it.  I did a quick google search on sleepovers and came across a thread on netmums where they were discussing what age is right and some mums had happily has sent their kids for sleepovers at four and five.  On the one hand it made me think that maybe I’m being over-protective but on the other I’ve always believed in trusting my own instinct as a mother.  And what is right for one child doesn’t mean it’s right for another.  At least that is what I told myself when reading the thread.

But on thinking about it further I know that Anya is mature for her six years.  She is well behaved and doesn’t get up at night.  She is respectful of other kids parents and is a very social child.  Given all this my rational mind tells me that she is more than ready for a sleepover and will have a fabulous time.  So if I’m being honest, the real question is am I ready?  And the answer is no.  My emotional mind is screaming ‘NO’ not yet!  She has never spent a night away from me, ever.  Would it be selfish to not let her go because of my own feelings?  Richard felt exactly the same as me – no, not yet!  Thankfully we are both very much on the same page when it comes to parenting our child. 

I don’t think that there is a right age for a sleepover (within reason of course) – it depends entirely from child to child, where they are going and how the parents and the child feels about it.  As the parents we need to be absolutely comfortable with it and confident that our child will be fine.  But my dilemma is different.  I am confident that Anya will be fine, I see no rational reason to stop her apart from my own feelings.  She would not be going far so if I was needed for any reason I could be with her in minutes.  I know what I probably should do but the question is will I be able to do it? 

What would you do? Have your kids been for sleepovers and at what age?  I’d love to hear your advice and thoughts.

"how to stick to your resolutions"

Each year I make some resolutions (or goals which is the word I prefer) either for my work or perosnal life or most often for both.  But in all honesty, come March/April they are long forgotten and or at least I haven’t stuck to them.  This year I want things to be different.  There are of course changes I want to make but I need to find a way to stick to them.  When I started thinking about this last week and wondering how I could be better at sticking to my goals, it suddenly hit me as to where I was going wrong.  In the past I’ve sat down and made a general list (either on paper or in my head) of big changes I want to make, without much thought given to how I was going to make these changes.  After a while these changes can start to feel overwhelming and I would mostly end up not pursuing them at all.

One of my goals for this blog is to mix the content up a bit more.  While I don’t plan to stop featuring gorgeous kids stuff, I want to add more DIY, recipes, personal family experiences, my own styled shoots etc.  This can feel like a big task (especially with a huge house renovation project coming up and my new shop to add to my normal workload) because creating more of my own content will take time.  As an example, an idea for one post struck me today.  In the past this idea would have been added to a list, I would have tried to plan how I’m going to do this along with other stuff over the course of the year, where I’ll find time, trying to put a list of ideas together for the year – no more. I took the simple step of emailing the brand that I wanted to collaborate with and that’s it for today.  When (and if) they come back to me, I shall take the next little step.  It might seem like the obvious thing to do but I know that I definitely wasn’t doing it right in the past.

So this year my resolutions don’t look anything like big, huge things to accomplish.  Instead I have a rough idea of the big picture in my head but that is not my focus at all.  My focus is doing at least one small thing each day that will over the period of the year, add up to my big goals.  I am not going spend time thinking about the big end goal but all I want to think about is what is that one little thing I can do today.  That’s it – just one small step every day.

After one year I shall see if this little daily method works for me or not.  Have you made goals for the year? Do you usually stick to them?  If you do, I’d love to hear how you manage to make it happen. Maybe you already do one small thing each day?

{words from goodvibe.co}

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